After 3 months of dating, girlfriend demands lifetime income deal – breaking what she says is ‘totally reasonable’

The three-month relationship ended after a disagreement over a proposed financial situation that arose in a late-night video call.

In a post on the r/AITAH subreddit, a 30-year-old man wrote that his girlfriend said any future marriage would require a legally binding document that obliges him to give her a percentage of his income — something he says he doesn’t want to accept.

A new requirement was introduced

The original poster wrote that the relationship was going well. The couple spent Christmas together, planned a trip to Canada, and discussed prices and future plans.

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During a video call, his girlfriend revisited the written list of non-negotiables and added an income agreement as a requirement for marriage.

Arguments and an ultimatum

According to the post, the disagreement continued for several days, with his girlfriend sending him messages explaining the situation.

She cited growing up in a single-income household in the Philippines, her experiences working as a paralegal, and trauma from previous relationships. She wrote that those experiences made her not want to rely on trust alone.

The OP said she wouldn’t compromise and needed to agree to a compromise to keep the relationship going.

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She accuses him of trying to manipulate her into accepting less than she wants and says his refusal shows he doesn’t care about her needs. She also said that her reaction triggered memories of her previous relationship.

She said the request was “totally reasonable” and said her unwillingness to agree was enough to end the relationship.

In an update, the OP added that she wanted to work less if she was married while continuing her remote paralegal work. She doesn’t want children and doesn’t want to compromise her career.

The comments section largely supported the OP. “Not an a**hole,” one commenter wrote. “I don’t think there’s a lawyer alive who would advise you to sign that kind of prenuptial agreement. You don’t have to pay for her trauma.”

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Another added, “Three months and he wants you to sign away your future income? Just not. That’s a guarantee of financial life, not a partnership.”

Others echoed similar thoughts. “Huge red flag,” one commenter wrote. “Glad she didn’t wait too long to follow you.”

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